I Knew He Was the One For You

I went to a wedding a few weekends ago for one of my ex-colleagues and her new hubby. It was beautiful. She was beautiful. They were beautiful.

I noticed during most, if not all, of the bridal party’s speeches, that people, in some way, shape, or form said “when he first told me about her” or “when she first told me about him, I knew s/he was someone special and/or the one.” I leaned over to my good girlfriend sitting next to me and said “so since apparently all of my friends will know who ‘the one’ is before I even know, can you let me know as soon as you know who my one is, because I would rather you not reveal that you knew for so dang on long at our wedding. I want to know right then damnit!” She cracked up laughing and assured me that she could do that much.

I had to wonder after listening to these speeches, do your friends really know when someone you meet is “different” and is the “one?” or is that just something people say during speeches because it sounds good and is polite to your new hubby/wifey?

I have actually had one of my very best friends tell me that she thinks (well now that she thought…and I guess maybe still thinks) that this one guy I recently experienced a connection with was the one. I mean…it makes sense that she thought that…heck, even I thought that. There is something extremely special about him that I can’t really put into words. There’s this compliment, even in the worst of times, that I feel like we give each other. Something I’ve never experienced before.  Now maybe I will experience this again. Who knows. But I know that he’s the first guy who I felt I could get through absolutely anything with and it was then that I realized that, that feeling is a VERY integral part of knowing you’ve found the “one.” Not love. Not happiness. But really FEELING like you can make it through the WORST of times with this person because you all have some natural (well really it’s unnatural) bond that will withstand the test of times. A feeling that when he’s not at his best, you can fill in, when you’re not at your best, he can fill in and when you both are not at your best, you still find a way to pull each other up out of the “bottom.” A feeling that even imagining him at his WORST, isn’t enough to make you think you’d ever want to leave. It’s just a very powerful feeling to have.  I think so at least.

I wondered to myself, is this maybe what the difference between loving someone and finding your soulmate is? I certainly don’t believe that everyone ends up with their soulmate. I think timing and proximity play such a big role in who you end up with, that sometimes, if you’re lucky enough for your soulmate to enter your life, s/he might exit just the same and you just have to be thankful that you got the chance to meet them at all.

I also wonder if the “thing” that my newly married friend’s bridal party saw is the same thing my friend sees.

I ALSO wonder if one of my very best friends is right.

Only time will tell.

And I happen to have recently fallen in love with this song. :-)

Question: What do you all think finding your soulmate feels like? Can outsiders see that you’ve found “the one” before you?